I got so angry watching the news tonite. I kept hearing the words “closure” and “healing” being used about the killings in Virginia. The newscasters showed footage of things returning to “normalcy” and kids returning to classes.
they had the audacity, or, stupidity, to say that it was the beginning of healing and gaining closure.
Are you out of your mind? It’s only a week. There is no one who lost a loved one or witnessed a tragedy like this who is anywhere near closure or healing. Impossible.
But, that’s our society…that doesn’t want to show the true grief. The media will show the graphic violence or the gratuitous interview with a sobbing family member, but there is no version of reality about the grief process expressed.
This is the moment to acknowledge and honor that grief is a slow process that is excruciating. There is no normalcy ever again. We are forever changed and to assert that going back to class is a return to normalcy is an insult to every bereaved person who knows life is never the same. life is never normal again. there is just a return to a routine while numb.
A reader shared in a comment on a previous post that she lost her son 9 years ago today and is suffering. the 20th anniversary of my Dad’s passing is this week and i’m still affected by it.
Of course we are. How could we not be? I created this blog so people can write the truth. So there are others sharing similar feelings and people know there is nothing wrong with them that they didn’t return to “normal” and maybe they still don’t have closure.
Please share your stories and feelings. Each time you do, you validate someone who desperately may need to hear it because there are few messages of what grief is really like out there.
Thank you all for your comments and please keep sharing.
