Holiday:
Family can be our biggest triggers especially after loss because we all deal with it so differently. In my extended family, talking about our losses is not good form. They don’t like to discuss it because it’s “depressing” but I think it’s healing. I am not permitted to express myself freely with my extended family because I am shut down.
It’s hard on holidays when I would like to be with people that I share history with and I could remember my family with. I’ve decided to spend my holidays with people who let me be myself but sadly, they don’t know who I am referring to.
It’s not that I spend the entire time talking or crying or beating my breast. I just say what I feel when I feel it. And I doubt I will ever have a holiday when I won’t remember my family. Why should i?
HOW WAS YOUR HOLIDAY???
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